Remember when your heart simply soared at the sight of your lover? What has happened to those wonderful feelings? Does it feel like the fireworks have fizzled? The stresses of building careers, raising families, paying bills, meeting commitments, leave little time for relationships. Each person in a committed relationship wants to feel that ones partner gets his or her essence. When there is not time and energy set aside to nurture the relationship/marriage the fireworks fizzle and each partner feels emotionally alone.
How can one start to rekindle the emotional connection? When one feels alone it is only natural to want the other person to show real caring first. Instead, what I am suggesting is that you begin by focusing on the needs of your partner. Here are seven tips for reconnecting with your partner.
Maintain a positive attitude
Embrace a positive attitude and you will soon find yourself irresistible. You will be amazed how responsive your partner becomes and how much easier it is for you to practice a positive attitude. Keep it up and your relationship will start to shift positively.
Do acts of random kindness
It is the little things that have the long-lasting effect on love. What would give your partner pleasure today? Try doing something you know would please your partner, call to say ?I love you? for no reason, doing exactly what you said you would do, or taking that extra minute by going above and beyond to please your partner.
Appreciate and acknowledge the positive
Pay attention to what your partner does that pleases you then acknowledge it. When you spot a loving act, speak up! Don?t let a single opportunity pass by. Always let your partner know how much he or she means to you and how appreciative you are of each small caring action.
If there are things about your partner that you don?t like, simply add the opposite trait to your list of things you are grateful for. In other words, if you wish your partner paid more attention to you, simply add to your gratitude list the fact that you are grateful for all the attention your partner lavishes on you. It might feel like a lie at first; but continuing to affirm this desired, new reality will ultimately lead to changes in both you and your partner.
Carry two goals within you simultaneously
The big goal is that you would like to rekindle your relationship. The action goals are the little steps you take every day by being fair, doing random acts of kindness, letting go of blame and criticism, by speaking in ?I? messages and listening with an open mind.
Trust and love take time to be rekindled
It is through acceptance and giving that love is shown. You will find that gradually your loneliness and anger will lessen and friendship and intimacy will grow
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